When feminism goes too far

Women have been overlooked for far too long. Our accomplishments, ideas, and goals have been swept under the carpet in favour of what men want. The good news is: we now have women marches and feminist movements to shine a light on what we want.

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BUT! (and there is a big but here) At some point in time, that light shone a little too bright. An example would be after the Oscars this year. Why was Rose McGowan against Natalie Portman’s dress, when all it did was acknowledge female directors in a subtle way?

I’m going to preface my theory by saying that I do not intend to make this about celebrity gossip. I want to make this about how feminism has gone off the deep end, and possibly right through the Bermuda Triangle. By complaining about celebrating male directors is nothing but reverse sexism; feminists are not practicing what they preach. Just because we are women does not mean that we have the right to win awards that we don’t deserve. Of course awards shows are not 100% credible, and the outcomes are sometimes influenced by industry politics.

Rose McGowan, and other feminists who claim they are more proactive need to continue doing their part. We are inspired by their efforts and celebrate all things feminist. The healthy way to proceed would be to encourage other women to join them. If you don’t like someone’s weak attempt at protest, just leave them alone! There are bigger issues in the world without bombarding us with this high school like drama.

The conclusion: reverse sexism = hypocrisy. Call to action: let’s fix that.

Harvey Weinstein is going free

I know it’s not a popular opinion, or what people want to hear, but the truth is: I think Harvey Weinstein is getting off. But he sexually assaulted all those women; he traumatized them. How could he go free? Let me explain.

First of all, I think we can all agree that the American justice system sees colour. There was no issue sentencing Bill Cosby, and R Kelly will undoubtedly get the full 500 years in prison he is facing. To be clear, they both deserve it. Weinstein, on the other hand, is a wealthy white male — three characteristics that are a great privilege in America.

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Second of all, Weinstein’s defence team will question the accusers’ motives. They’re going to ask “Did you continue to see him? If so, why would you do that if he sexually assaulted you before?” They’re going to press for details about the movies the actresses have been in, and whether or not Weinstein produced said movies. The truth is, there might be some women who kept going back to him out of fear of losing their careers, not because they were attracted to him. Weinstein was well aware of this, and he knowingly put these women in a compromising situation. On the flip side though, there could be women who voluntarily engaged in an affair with him in order to advance their careers, and just jumped on the #MeToo bandwagon for more fame and money. The defence will use this argument against them, making it difficult for the prosecutors to present a credible case.

The #MeToo movement has inspired thousands, and maybe even millions, of women from every industry to speak out about sexual assault. We do also have to accept that there are women who are unfortunately going to abuse the movement for their own personal gain. Sadly, that is one major strength in Weinstein’s defence. He deserves to be locked up with Bill Cosby, and R Kelly, and all the other predators. Let’s hope the jury sees that, because the accusers are still saying

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Johnny Depp will finally get justice

Ok so I didn’t want to make this a political post, because domestic violence is both a liberal and conservative issue. Let’s examine the domestic violence Johnny Depp faced during his marriage to Amber Heard from right in the middle.

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Recordings were leaked earlier today with Amber Heard admitting to abusing Johnny Depp, by hitting him and throwing pots and pans at him. The question is: why didn’t anybody take him seriously when he made these claims? I think it’s because we don’t ever consider men to be victims of domestic violence. They can only be perpetrators.

According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), 1 in 4 women have experienced physical violence from their partner, vs. 1 in 9 men. That’s a significant difference in terms of numbers, but not in terms of severity. Let’s face it: if the roles were reversed, Johnny would not stand a chance of winning is lawsuit and would be facing jail time. His career would be destroyed. The whole of the United States, and possibly other countries would come to a stand still and feminist groups would be protesting. And in that case, this would be the right course of action. Unfortunately, despite the #JusticeForJohnnyDepp that has gone viral, I’m not sure much more will be done. It’s not because Johnny is not deeply loved by all his fans, but because we don’t know how to react when men are physically abused. We haven’t been taught how to do so.

Let’s say hypothetically, for the sake of argument, that there was alcohol involved. If the woman was the victim as a result of her male partner being drunk, he would have to take full responsibility. If the roles were reversed, he would still have to take responsibility because we would likely assume that she drank heavily due to the abuse. There is that double standard, and it’s not fair to victims of any gender.

If anything, Johnny and Amber’s situation has proven the stereotypes of domestic violence only happening in lower to middle class families, wrong. So did Chris Brown and Rihanna, and other similar celebrity cases. We as a society need to start taking domestic violence seriously, regardless of which community those involved are from, or what their socio-economic status is.

If you would like to know more, you can visit https://ncadv.org/statistics for more information. #JusticeForJohnnyDepp.

Why we need to end our obsession with Meghan and Harry

Photo courtesy of Teen Vogue

Over the past few weeks, the world has heard about the (soon to be former) Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, Duchess of Sussex, leaving the royal family. This story has been getting an excessive amount of unnecessary media attention. Why do I feel this way?

Because they’re going to be just fine. Plus, this is potentially a distraction, but I’ll get to that later in the post.

According to CNBC, Prince Harry is worth around £30 million, while Meghan is worth roughly $2.2 million. The two have already partnered with the Obama’s production company, Higher Ground, and could likely make over $110 million in sponsored posts on Instagram. Not Instagram plus other social media platforms…Instagram alone.

They can move to whichever country they want, and continue living a lavish lifestyle flying in their private jets, and driving their luxury cars.  The only main difference is that they won’t have royal titles and the media might actually start being kind to Meghan. The cruelty that she faced, especially from the British media, was horrific and I don’t think anyone can truly blame her for wanting to leave that life. One might argue that she was well aware of the challenges that come with being a royal, or that there is racial bias. But that can be a discussion for another time.

This story is, without a doubt, a distraction from Prince Andrew’s prior crimes.

Photo courtesy of the Evening Standard

Yes, he committed crimes that he should be imprisoned for, because having sexual relations with underaged girls is illegal. This is regardless of whether the incident occurred in your country of residence or not. The Royal family’s PR is so effective that I personally forgot about Prince Andrew amidst all the Harry and Meghan drama. 

Two adults choosing to leave the royal family does not deserve as much media attention as their uncle committing crimes against underaged girls.